Although a recent phenomenon, social media has gone viral worldwide and changed the way we communicate, flirt, share, and gather information. A whole world of photos, videos, and insight into other people’s lives–at the touch of our fingertips.
No wonder social media keeps coming up as an important factor when it comes to divorce. To be precise, more than 81 percent of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers admitted to using social media posts as evidence in the divorce cases of their clients.
What is it that makes social media so dangerous to marriage?
1. Social Media is a Source of Jealousy
No marriage is perfect, and each has its struggles. Of course, taking a look at most couples’ social media accounts tells a different story altogether. Married life is always perfect, and all of those marriages seem better than yours. This illusion puts unnecessary pressure on your marriage.
In addition to that, harmless actions such as complimenting a person on social media or liking a picture can cause jealousy and mistrust, which is always bad for marriage.
2. Spouses Spend Too Much Time on the Social Media Platforms
We are all guilty of this one. We are spending too much time on our phones, tablets, and laptops. At the same time, we are missing opportunities to connect with our spouse. Instead, we feel that our spouse is distant and would rather be elsewhere, a more perfect world they found on social media.
Excessive use of social media has negative consequences on our mental health, and that situation is even more apparent in close social contracts such as marriage.
3. The Use of Social Media is Untransparent
One in three married people in the US claims that they would never provide the passwords to their social media profiles to their spouses. This leads to an environment where time spent on social media is untransparent between partners, causing friction to an already stressful reality of everyday marriage. A secret post here or there or a chat that might raise some questions from your spouse is all it takes for the situation to escalate.
4. Secret Accounts, Broken Trust
In addition to keeping their social media accounts locked out to their spouses, 8 percent of all married people go a step further and open secret social media accounts that their spouses do not know about. This secret online activity is a sign of mistrust or intent to do something that the partner would consider inappropriate, and outside of the agreed rules of your marriage.
5. Constant Cause of Fights
Your spouse posted something on social media, and you didn’t offer support? A photo of you and your friends at a local bar while you are “stuck at work”? Yes, it is that easy. Arguments and fights feed on the never-ending source of jealousy, envy, and conflict that is social media. Social media creates unhealthy communication habits and only deepens the divide between the spouses.
6. A Slippery Slope
Being active on social media is a slippery slope for marriage. Suddenly, your ex contacts you out of nowhere, or a new colleague strikes up a chat, and you seem to connect quickly. If the relationship with your spouse is honest and open, these kinds of events might not be dangerous to your marriage but will present a constant source of temptation.
We have all heard horror stories of spouses taking a step too far, developing an infatuation, or reconnecting with their exes. Social media also blurs the lines of normal communication and emotional cheating.
7. It Might Fuel Your Spouse’s Divorce Case
Nowadays, it is rare when a divorce case does not include copies and screenshots of social media posts as evidence to support the claim of one of the spouses. Whether it is cheating, proof a spouse is hiding money, living a secret life, or even extreme cases of spouses involved in crime, courts use social media activity to make judgments in divorce proceedings and custody cases.
At the law firm of Katherine Grier, PC, we pride ourselves in helping clients navigate this difficult period of their lives. If you need an attorney that will offer sound legal advice and representation during a divorce case, and yet, have compassion and understanding of this delicate situation, we invite you to contact us today.